What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is abusive behavior – emotional, physical, or sexual – that one person in an intimate relationship uses in order to control another. It takes many forms and includes threats, name calling, preventing contact with family or friends, withholding money, actual or perceived physical harm, stalking, and sexual assault.

Warning Signs

Does your partner:

  • act excessively jealous or controlling?
  • humiliate or yell at you?
  • criticize you or put you down?
  • prevent you from seeing your family or friends?
  • ignore you or belittle your accomplishments?
  • control you, what you do or who you see?
  • limit your access to money or transportation?
  • blame you for his/her behavior?
  • see you as property rather than a person?
  • have a bad or unpredictable temper?
  • monitor your actions?
  • force you to have sex?
  • threaten to hurt or kill you?
  • threaten to harm your loved ones?
  • threaten to take your children away from you?
  • threaten to commit suicide if you leave?

Do you:

  • feel afraid of your partner?
  • avoid certain topics out of fear of angering him/her?
  • feel you can’t do anything right for your partner?
  • believe you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
  • hide your partners behavior from friends or family?


The prevalence of domestic violence is difficult to measure. Why? Because not all incidents are reported to law enforcement and not all victims seek help.  Abuse often occurs in private and victims are often reluctant to report because of shame or fear of reprisal.

With that in mind, here are some statistics from the U.S. Centers for Disease Control & Prevention and the U.S. Office on Violence against Women (OVW):

  • Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women in the United States.
  • A woman is assaulted or beaten every 9 seconds.
  • Every day in this country, three women die at the hands of their abusers.
  • 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have been the victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner.
  • 1 in 6 women and 1 in 19 men have been stalked in their lifetime.

If you live or work in the Oneida County and need help of information regarding domestic violence, we offer:

  • 24-hour confidential hotline
  • Individual and group counseling
  • Advocacy and accompaniment throughout medical and legal procedures
  • Support, information and and referrals
  • Short and long term residential programs for victims of domestic violence
  • Short and long term programs for runaway and homeless girls ages 16 to 21
  • Violence and prevention education

These services are free and confidential.

Need help or information regarding domestic violence?

Call us 24/7L (315) 797-7740